A problem solved is a problem that was looked at one more time.
An open heart is a closed heart that opened one more time. 

Mutually Assured Seduction is the public face of a private research effort to apply category theory, control theory, and emergent biology to extremely difficult problems in relationships (personal, professional, between, or within organizations). The approach takes an expansive view of experience and possibilities, while considering what trade deals are implicitly and explicitly negotiated.

The bedrock philosophy:

Cutting out intimacy, because there are problems or it feels too good, is a good way to be alone and without intimacy.

The existence of problems is itself not a problem, but rather a normal state.

All problems remain problems until a satisfying resolution is found, but even for difficult problems, satisfying resolutions can be found.

The way to get better at solving problems is by getting better at solving problems.


Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in

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The essays below are a good start for learning about our approach. In each essay, the limitations of a popular decision-making framework are outlined and an alternative is suggested after reexamining the original problem.

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