I'd be curious how far this frame carries you on your wave!
^^ "You can “care about the identity of being on top” and that basically carries you quite far."
The texture between 'wanting to become' and 'just becoming' is brilliant too. The former feels like a yearning or a pedestal. The latter feels like a system or instruction manual, that's more chill.
Like building IKEA furniture instead of crafting a chair from a solid block of wood using a craftman's tools
I really love this metaphor! It resonates with me a lot. I have had times in my life when I felt like a craftsman making a chair from a solid block of wood. In those times, I did not feel aspiration to "be" a craftsman - rather I already felt the "being" of craftsman in my soul somehow. I would have no idea where it would come from, and would not question it, but now I am taking the creation of a sculpture extremely seriously. This would be different from having a fantasy or hope around being good at something. The desire would come externally, and the IKEA model seems like a more sensible model to follow in those circumstances! Perhaps there are people who channel their inner carpenter in different contexts, after deciding they want to. It seems like both an exciting and a hard way to live!
I'd be curious how far this frame carries you on your wave!
^^ "You can “care about the identity of being on top” and that basically carries you quite far."
The texture between 'wanting to become' and 'just becoming' is brilliant too. The former feels like a yearning or a pedestal. The latter feels like a system or instruction manual, that's more chill.
Like building IKEA furniture instead of crafting a chair from a solid block of wood using a craftman's tools
I really love this metaphor! It resonates with me a lot. I have had times in my life when I felt like a craftsman making a chair from a solid block of wood. In those times, I did not feel aspiration to "be" a craftsman - rather I already felt the "being" of craftsman in my soul somehow. I would have no idea where it would come from, and would not question it, but now I am taking the creation of a sculpture extremely seriously. This would be different from having a fantasy or hope around being good at something. The desire would come externally, and the IKEA model seems like a more sensible model to follow in those circumstances! Perhaps there are people who channel their inner carpenter in different contexts, after deciding they want to. It seems like both an exciting and a hard way to live!